In my childhood, in my village school, a Jodhpur city teacher who was then M.Com. LLB was appointed for the teaching job. His wife was the daughter of a famous doctor of Jodhpur. How the couple coming from the city must have felt in village life six decades ago can be imagined from the fact that their quarters did not even have toilets and they had to spend the night by the light of lanterns.
They had three sons and their education and initiation took place in our village itself. The special thing about Guru Mata’s life was that after her marriage, she always displayed herself as the wife of Gurudev, not as the daughter of a famous Doctor. She managed her household expenses according to Guruji’s salary and herself took pleasure in living a life of simplicity. In childhood, we used to see that they made their children do all the work by hand, it was the responsibility of the children to wash their own clothes and clean the food utensils. Under her guidance, all three children later got higher education, due to which one son is serving as Principal in Higher Secondary, the second boy is a Senior Scientist in Bangalore ISRO and the third boy is a Doctor and is serving as Senior Specialist Medicine. Whenever Gurumata Ji came to Jodhpur, she would bring medicines from her father and if anyone in the village was sick, they would be given free medicines.
She was highly respected in the distributing village and after retirement, Guru Dev was also assigned the post of sarpanch in the village. That family also gave proper guidance to the children of the village, so that they too could go to the city and get higher education after their schooling, and even after retirement, keeping their grandchildren with them, provided higher education and culture.
After starting his job, another gentleman was appointed as a teacher in the same village who belonged to Rani station (which is 15 km from the village) and his wife was from Jodhpur. Second Guru Mata’s father was appointed to a high position at the then Maharaja of Jodhpur. And her brother was a Chartered Accountant in Calcutta five decades ago.
Secondly, Guru Mata Ji always considered herself to be the daughter of a big house in Jodhpur and her husband was a man from a modest village. Fighting with her husband, abusing her in front of us children, and putting Guruji’s ironed clothes in the soil, had become her routine. Guruji was very patient while doing his job and kept on tolerating the horrific behavior of his wife. Presently Guruji’s wife is living life in a separate house in the village. Her daughter got divorced after 2 years of living with ‘in-laws’ and she is also leading a lonely life living separately from Gurumata Ji and Guruji too, after retirement, has become a patient of paralysis.
This episode will give a new direction to the women, who keep praising their side of the family while staying in their in-laws’ house and look at their husband and father-in-law with an inferiority complex and maintain an atmosphere of dissatisfaction in the house.
In the Jangid society too, the number of divorce cases is rising.
What is the importance of humility and tolerance to make the family’s life peaceful and pleasant; Both the above incidents make it clear and give us the motivation to have a gentle demeanor?
-Er. Tarachand
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