A friend of mine has three sons. Earlier all lived with parents. Later the sons got married and started their own business. After some years the two senior sons built their own houses and they started living with the family in houses built in other places in the city. The parents started living in their old house with the family of their younger son.
Later, one day the elder son of a friend met me and told me that because of the separation, the father’s love is more with the youngest brother, they come very rarely to us. I advised him that both of you brothers who live outside, once or twice a month should start eating lunch cooked as per convenience and go to father’s house along with daughter-in-law and children, all three brothers and their families and parents start eating. When the boys started such programs, the love of the parents became undone with all. Such a matter was resolved.
In another family, the wife died and after that the father lived alone in the old house. They have only one son and who lives with the family in a bungalow built in the posh colony of the city. This family is my acquaintance. One day I found that boy of his in the market. When asked about the condition of the house, he said that after the death of the mother, the father lives in the old house. I requested him two or three times that you should come to stay with us, so that you can keep your mind and make arrangements for food and drink. But the father says that he does not want to leave the old house because of his fascination. I told the boy that your father is not coming because it is his house and has spent a lot of life’s journey in it. Maybe they would think that why should I leave my own house and stay at the boy’s house. I further advised that there are four rooms in your new house, allot one room in the name of father. Put a bed and a lock-key cupboard in it and hand it over to the father. Telling my father to stay in the old house for fifteen days and for the remaining fifteen days of the month reside in room number-3 (allotted to father) of the house. The boy did so and the father gradually started living at the boy’s house, with time.
Similarly, in the third friend’s family, along with the parents, two sons lived with daughters-in-law. In the course of time, the father passed away. Later, the elder boy built a house in a separate colony and started residing there with the family. Mataji is spending time with the younger son’s family in the old house of the city. The elder boy wants his mother to come and live in his house. The same old excuse of Mother, I feel like in the old house only. Told that boy the formula of family no.-2 mentioned above. The boy earmarked a room for his mother’s bedroom and kept a lock-key cupboard separately in that room. Slowly the mother started going there and kept half the clothes in her room in the house of the elder boy so that he would not have to bring clothes again and again to come to this house from that house. It is reported that now the mother has set her mind in her designated room at her elder son’s house. Now she is living life happily in that house and sometimes in this house as per her wish. You see, how the matter got resolved.
-Er. Tarachand
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