The bitter relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been going on for years. Because of this, he himself gets upset. Due to which the family environment is polluted, children become frustrated.
A story is prevalent in the villages even today. Earlier, women kept cows in the houses and used to prepare ghee after collecting curd and buttermilk (whey) which remained behind. It was distributed free of cost to the women of the locality. Once the mother-in-law had gone out of the house, the elderly woman living at the end of the locality came to that house to get buttermilk, the daughter-in-law said – now there is no buttermilk left when the woman was returning to her house. Where did you go?
The old lady told me that I had gone to your house to get buttermilk, but the daughter-in-law said that there is no buttermilk. Mother-in-law said to the woman, come with me, how can the daughter-in-law refuse you for buttermilk? Both reached the house and made that woman sit in the outside room and went to the daughter-in-law to inquire inside. The daughter-in-law told the mother-in-law that the buttermilk was over. Mother-in-law said – no problem. He told the woman sitting in the outside room that the buttermilk was over. The woman said- I had already told you this, so what was the need to bring me back home with me? The mother-in-law said that the daughter-in-law does not have the right to refuse, if anyone has to refuse from this house, then I will. Mother-in-law wants to have this kind of domination.
As a child, we used to see that the mother-in-law used to keep food and drink from the villages in her lock. Before preparing food, she used to give the goods according to her daughter-in-law and then keep it by locking the goods in the room. When the mother-in-law passed away and the daughter-in-law grew up to become a mother-in-law, she took her daughter-in-law’s house and treated him as his mother-in-law had treated her and such animosity and mistrust used to go on between generation after generation. The educated people of the villages migrated to the cities, then gradually there was some improvement in the mother-in-law’s relationship.
Educated mother-in-law’s and daughter-in-law’s have all improved. It is not such a thing to talk about the Oswal community in Jodhpur. A father who used to run a business had two sons. The father came into adulthood and realized that the business run by him is in loss, so he told the sons that one brother should take over the present business and the other educated boy should do a job and his daughter-in-law is also educated, so that job too. If you do then the future of both will pass in the right way. The elder brother was given the old shop and business snake and the younger boy and daughter-in-law started teaching. After a few years the house was allotted from the housing board of the little boy. After the death of his mother, the little boy said to his father – you give me your deposits. I too will have a separate home. And you got into the sweet talk of father and son living with me in the new house and handed over your deposits to the younger son. For a whole year, the father was comfortable, then the daughter-in-law started her dance. Indecent behavior with father-in-law, disorder of eating and drinking and torture started in such a way that the father became very upset and finally he had to spend the last time in old age home.
A daughter-in-law with good values was also seen in an educated family. Went to meet Brigadier Sahab’s house at one place in a day. When a letter was mentioned in the talks, the Brigadier Saheb said to a woman – Pushu (Pushpa’s beloved name) came four days ago after finding the elder brother’s letter and seeing his behavior, I asked the Brigadier Saheb “is this your daughter”? He said -yes, she is my daughter-in-law and the son is posted on the border. That day I realized that if mother-in-law and father-in-law treat daughter-in-law like their daughter, then mother-in-law’s quarrels can end a lot.
You will be surprised that one of my companions loves her son-in-law more than her daughter. When the mother-in-law sends her daughter-in-law to meet her for four-five days. When the mother-in-law asks the reason for coming early, the daughter-in-law says – Mummyji, I do not feel like home without you.
No matter how good it is, as the Brigadier and mother-in-law of my companion like the behavior of the daughter-in-law of my colleague, then the story of the bitterness of the mother-in-law of the house will be curbed. Today I request the Pathak brothers to give the status of daughter to their son-in-law, mother-in-law to take her daughter-in-law into confidence. If the daughter-in-law considers mother-in-law to be father-mother, then the solution to this problem is inevitable.
-Er. Tarachand
इस लेख को हिंदी में पढ़ने के लिए यहां क्लिक करें: